#OnTinderAtTinder - Expectation versus Reality
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More to the point, the disparity between how someone looks in a photo and how they look in real life doesn't mean that they're overstating their attractiveness. Everyone tries to look good in photos at some point or another, and are far more likely to use successful attempts at that on dating sites. #OnTinderAtTinder has been illustrating that point masterfully.
How I look on Tinder Vs. How I look when I'm swiping on Tinder 😑#OnTinderAtTinder #SingleTillIm90 pic.twitter.com/qKHlYDAVGh
— Kaylum Sharp (@KaylumSharp) January 26, 2016
Started by Someecards, the meme involves people posting an image of themselves that they use on Tinder next to one of them from everyday life, sometimes whilst actually using the app. It's a humorous, but poignant reminder of the disparity between real life and online representation. When you're talking to someone online, but have yet to meet them, your interactions only exist within a sort of hypothetical fantasy realm. It's unlikely that bedhead, morning breath, crow's feet, blotchy skin or any of the other supposedly unattractive issues that everyone (EVERYONE) has to deal with on a daily basis ever make it into that world. It probably looks more like a perfume ad.
what i look like on tinder vs when i see who superlikes me.... #OnTinderAtTinder pic.twitter.com/ScX3Isuubd
— marina (@youngblood182) January 27, 2016
If you're in a long term relationship, there probably came a point when you realised how much you were drawn to the personality of your partner, how much you had in common with them, or how much you understood each other. It could have been when you first met, after seeing each other for a week or two, or after a long stretch of being friends before one of you finally asked the other one out. If you're using Tinder because you're in the market for a long term relationship, that's principally what you're after, which renders basing your search for love principally on appearance a complete fallacy.
happy that the #ontinderattinder hashtag exists thank you @BuzzFeed - stay catfishing major 🔑🔑 pic.twitter.com/92yIaFZGu1
— Joëlle. (@joellekanyana) January 28, 2016
Now, don't get me wrong, I'm not saying that Tinder is completely ill-suited to finding a long term partner (although I'm certainly thinking it loudly), but if you are of that persuasion, some time reflecting on how different the person you've been chatting with will look IRL might be helpful. It's as much about being OK with your own appearance as other people's, though, as online culture as availed people of unrealistic expectations of themselves as much as, or more than of others.
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#OnTinderAtTinder - Expectation versus Reality
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